Finding out the fact almost first hand there’s nothing but black holes and dark outlooks on everything. That being said crawling out of your own misery after years of enduring running into someone who is miserable all the time, every time, for all eternity and takes it out on just about every one, it’s fair to say that you can live vicariously through them enough to the point where you won’t feel miserable about your life, just pity, not them, but the people they come in contact with. 

I know such a miserable person. Welcome to the sequel of the brother homecoming, version of, lets fuck up spring break for everyone. 

Yes, he returns for a 9 day excursion of ruining lives and being the most miserable person that could. I honestly have no real clue which is more pitiful, him or how he treat everyone, and not just his mom and brother and me, but his sister. I think I feel most sorry for her, she’s like eleven and he gets off calling her a bitch and telling her she’s being a bitch and puts her down more than twice a day and if that kid doesn’t grow up with a complex because of it, I’ll be utterly shocked. My friend already said just for that he wants to kick his ass.

The worst part is it’s over stupid shit that doesn’t deserve that kind of thing, not that it makes it ok at any point, but he picks the most least important thing to be an ass to her about things. I’ll give you an example:

She was playing a Wii game in his room, cause that’s where the Wii is, and she was getting frustrated that she couldn’t beat this boss in the game, I mean that’s reasonable, right? Who hasn’t as a kid been ready to toss your game system out the window over something like that? I remember a few times I wanted to snap my pokemon games in half because the gym leaders seemed to be cheating. But the point here is that she was getting mad for a valid thing, and not really mad mad either, just like anyone else in the gaming world you get mad sometimes at your game cheating you. The twist is that he’s sitting there telling her to shut the fuck up and if she can’t play the game right to turn it off. All I can say to that is I’m glad she’s actually getting pissed back at him for it and telling him to shut up. So there may be hope yet. 

Although even with her new found strength against her brother bully, I still worry she’ll grow up to have as much horrible angst as him or worse be completely insecure with everything she does not feeling like she’s going to accomplish much or something bad like that. She already asks both her mom and brothers for hugs for reassurance that they love her and that they do care and don’t hate her at all, which is clear enough, but the fact she needs that it worrisome. The brother bully I can see why she might wonder, but everyone else treats her way better than that, barring sibling rivalry being a thing that happens. It’s only him who treats her like dirt, as he does with everyone, not much his own brother, but he gets an attitude with just about everyone else. 

It’s honestly like he’s trying to lay claims on his brother when he snaps around him wanting everyone to stay away from him so he can have his brother to himself. There’s a limit where it gets more territorial than just brother time. 

I walked into the room one day, his room, to talk to my fiance, his brother, and before I even reach the door frame he says “No!, Out!”, of course my fiance tells him otherwise. Then when my fiance starts to play a video on his laptop I lean in to look and he starts saying ” Hey, I didn’t say you could come in here!”. Now on one level, it is his room and he can decide who is in it or not, but on the other hand, when you have everyone else in the room including his sister and my fiance it’s just being rude to me and only me, and all I was doing was talking to my fiance. 

Then you have the fact of when he found out that me and his brother we’re in fact engaged. He practically lost his mind, he wouldn’t even talk to him in person about it, wouldn’t even congratulate him either, the only thing he could even ask first thing was “So I checked facebook and it says you and her are ENGAGED? The fuck?” As if he didn’t see it coming, as if his brother had to ask his permission first or something, as if he could talk him out of it. I wasn’t really shocked at his reaction just kind of thinking, ‘geez you can’t even give your own brother praise or a congratz bro, whens the wedding?’. No, of course not, he goes straight to judging the fact that he proposed to me at all and then questions if he really is thinking about a wedding because of how young we are and because he doesn’t approve of it being me or approve at all. I’d like to say it’s probably cause he’s alone and miserable and hates seeing his older brother find someone to settle with and he doesn’t making him feel small and left behind, but I can’t say that would be his reason or his only reason if it were. 

As the saying goes, misery likes company.